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You didn’t expect marriage to feel this hard—or to feel so far from the person sitting right next to you.

Building the Marriage You Want, the brand-new book from Dr. John Delony, breaks down why marriage feels so hard, why yours still matters, and what you can do to make it great—connected, all in, ride or die.

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Dr. John Delony, a three-time national bestselling author and host of The Dr. John Delony Show, helps millions of people navigate relationships and build marriages worth fighting for. He holds two PhDs and spent two decades in crisis response, sitting knee to knee with people in their hardest moments, before joining Ramsey Solutions in 2020.

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Dr. John Delony credentials: three-time national bestselling author, two PhDs in clinical counseling and education, more than 20 years in crisis response, and host of the Dr. John Delony Show.
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The Marriage You Actually Want

Marriage today carries expectations it’s never carried before. And when marriage doesn’t feel like we thought it would, it’s easy to believe we’ve grown too far apart—or that the relationship has simply run its course.

This. Is. False.

In Building the Marriage You Want, John lays out four things you and your spouse need from each other: to be . . .

Seen, Known, Celebrated, Challenged

They're not a formula or a list of demands. They're the foundation for how you relate to each other and build the marriage you want.


Delony breaks down how focusing on those four things helps exhausted, disconnected couples feel like real partners again. Then he hands you the tools to make it happen in your marriage—across the topics that get most couples sideways.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Building the Marriage You Want is about how to be married well in the 21st century. Dr. John Delony gives you a new foundation to build your relationship on, anchored in four things every spouse needs: to be seen, known, celebrated and challenged.

This book is for anyone who feels like marriage is harder than they expected. If you feel more like roommates than spouses, struggle to communicate without arguing, or just want to feel connected to your spouse again, this book is for you.

You'll learn a new framework for how to be married well in the 21st century—one built around what you and your spouse genuinely need from each other. Then Dr. John Delony will give you the tools to put it into practice, including:

  • A new playbook for communication and conflict in marriage
  • The honest sex talk you never got
  • A new lens for money in your marriage
  • Uncomfortable truths about being married with kids

Most couples don't mean to drift apart. Over time, they can get good at running a life together but end up feeling less connected to each other, and marriage can start to feel like one more thing to manage. Feeling like roommates doesn't mean your marriage is broken. In Building the Marriage You Want, Dr. John Delony helps you understand what's happening and what to do next.

Feeling disconnected from your spouse doesn't mean your marriage is broken—and it doesn't mean you have to stay disconnected. In Building the Marriage You Want, Dr. John Delony helps you understand why marriage can feel so hard, what you and your spouse genuinely need from each other, and what you can do next to build the marriage you actually want.

No. Feeling like marriage is hard doesn't automatically mean your marriage is broken.

Dr. John Delony spent years researching why marriage in the 21st century feels so hard. In Building the Marriage You Want, he unpacks what's changed, what you and your spouse genuinely need from each other, and why he believes more than ever that your marriage is still worth it.

You'll want to keep this one handy.  Dr. John Delony gives you a framework for understanding what you and your spouse need from each other—something you can come back to as your marriage grows and changes. And with practical help for communication and conflict, money, sex and being married with kids, John gives you guidance that applies over multiple years of your marriage.

No. You can start with you. You don't have to wait for your spouse to read the book or decide to do things differently. Dr. John Delony shows you how changing the way you show up in your marriage can begin changing the marriage itself. One person can go first. And you can start today.

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