To answer this question, let’s start by pointing out one thing that you should not do. Never nag and whine to your spouse about his or her lack of participation. For example, don’t bring up the fact that “Dave says we have to do this, or Dave says we have to do that.” Beating them up with another person’s advice will only cause them to be defensive.
So what are you supposed to do? First, just be honest and up front. Your spouse isn’t a mind reader. Simply explain that you are excited about working together to get out of debt and build wealth. That will hopefully get them fired up and wanting to join your crusade as well.
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If that doesn’t move you toward some good conversations, then you may have to work a little harder. Write down some of the points that concern you—and explain why you think they are an issue. Sometimes, the written word is the most effective way to communicate.
If you are trying to get your husband’s attention, try posing the financial situation as a battle or an adventure. Your guy might like this approach. Sit down with him, take his hands, and tell him that you would think it’s romantic for him to join you in this battle. Even the most thick-skulled guys will get the hint.
If you are trying to get your wife on board, remember that most women are wired for relationships and security. Talk about how spending time together on a budget helps improve communication and creates intimacy and unity. Be genuine. You probably won’t need to say much more.
Husbands and wives must work together in order to win with money. Two horses working together can pull a huge wagon up a hill. But if they pull in different directions, they will simply turn the wagon into firewood. Bottom line: If you aren’t working together, it’s almost impossible to win.
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