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It’s Valentine’s Day! Let’s Talk About Love Languages

People ask me all the time, “Rachel, what are some of your favorite books?”

Well, I have many, and I won’t go through all of them here. But I do want to talk about one of the most influential books in my life: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

This book is a must-read, you guys. It has the potential to have an amazing impact on your relationship, whether you’re dating, engaged, newlyweds or coming up on your 25th wedding anniversary. And what a great book to think about starting on Valentine’s Day!

If you haven’t read it, here’s my breakdown of the five love languages.

Words of Affirmation: Someone with this love language is all about giving and receiving kind words, especially from those closest to them. If you’re in a relationship with someone, make sure you’re telling them how beautiful or handsome or awesome they are. And hint, hint—it’s Valentine’s Day, so today’s a great day to start!

Physical Touch: Handholding. A hug. Cuddling on the couch. For the people who appreciate physical touch, it’s the small things that mean the most. So keep that in mind!

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Quality Time: This is simply about spending time together. And here’s the key—no television, no phones! Just the two of you, together, talking and communicating about what’s important to you both at the moment. If one of you appreciates quality time, I’d highly recommend setting aside a monthly date night to get out of the house and just focus on each other—especially if you have kids!

Gifts: Some people just love to receive gifts, and others express their love by giving them. It doesn’t have to be fancy. So, ladies, it’s not always about designer purses and jewelry! Sometimes a small, but thoughtful, gift here and there can go a long way.

Acts of Service: This is my love language, and my husband, Winston, is amazing at taking care of me in this way. He helps around the house—and, when I’m out of town, he makes sure I come back to a clean home. Like the other gifts, it’s the small, everyday acts of service that really make a difference.

If you haven’t read The 5 Love Languages, I highly recommend it. This book is an easy, short read.

Over your Valentine’s Day dinner, why not take a little time to talk about love languages with your significant other? Which language do you think you and your spouse appreciate?

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Rachel Cruze

About the author

Rachel Cruze

Rachel Cruze is a two-time #1 national bestselling author, financial expert and host of The Rachel Cruze Show. She has appeared on Good Morning America, Today and Live With Kelly & Ryan, among others. Since 2010, Rachel has served at Ramsey Solutions, where she teaches people how to avoid debt, save money, budget and win with money at any stage in life. Learn More.

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